How to Work your Way up Using a Large Dildo

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I. Introduction

Using a dildo can be so pleasurable, you might find yourself craving more, more, more! And when that craving hits, it could be time to upgrade to a larger dildo.
That being said, “moving on up” to a bigger size can be a challenge – so here are our best tips for expanding your horizons, size-wise!

II. Stage 1: Decisions, Decisions…

Know your starting point
Vaginal or anal?: Some people find that they can handle bigger penetration better vaginally than anally, although butts can also be plenty accommodating with enough warm-up and lube! Keep in mind that anal toys need to have a flared base, so that they don’t get stuck inside you.
Check what size you use now: If you already have a dildo or other penetrative toy, check its dimensions online or measure it yourself, and use that as a starting point to decide how much bigger to go.

Choose the right toy

Start with a slightly bigger size: Depending on how ambitious you’re feeling, you may want to try a toy that’s a quarter- to half-inch wider in diameter than those you’ve tried before. You can decide on an ultimate “goal size” if you want, but take your time getting there. Don’t fall victim to an “eyes bigger than your orifices” situation!

Safe materials: No matter what size you opt for, make sure your dildo is made of a body-safe, non-porous material, such as silicone, glass, or metal. These materials are healthier and more hygienic than porous materials like rubber, elastomer, and PVC.

Set yourself up for success

Pick the right lube: Lubricant is a must-have when experimenting with large penetration, for your comfort, pleasure, and safety. It helps avoid micro-tears and abrasion, and allows for a smoother glide. A thick water-based lube is the best choice for most dildos. Reapply throughout the session as needed.
Keep toys clean and hygienic: Otherwise, you risk giving yourself an infection, which could put your orifice out of commission for a while – not fun! In most cases, soap and water will do the trick just fine.

III. Stage 2: Getting Used to a Bigger Size

Step up slowly

Little by little: When it comes to big penetration, patience is the name of the game. Just like you wouldn’t try to run a marathon without training, you shouldn’t jump straight to using a huge dildo – start with smaller toys and/or fingers, and work your way up over time.
Stick to a schedule: Butts and vaginas are surprisingly muscular, and just like the muscles in the rest of your body, they get stronger and more flexible the more consistently you use ‘em. Try a “size training” regimen, where you use progressively larger toys 1–2 times a week for 2–4 weeks, and see where that gets you.

Size training tips & tricks

Relax with deep breathing and warm-up: Relaxation is crucial for penetration, especially anal penetration. Your butt has two sphincters (rings of muscle), one of which can’t be voluntarily controlled – the best you can do is get yourself as relaxed as possible and gradually coax your sphincters to cooperate. It can help to take long, deep breaths, and to massage around the anal opening with lubed fingers or a vibrator.
Use lots of lube: It’s a must! Don’t forget to reapply if it dries up.
Pick an easy position to maintain: Most people will be comfiest lying on their back, but you might find you prefer the angle of entry when you’re on all fours, for instance. Find what works best for you!

Comfort check:

●Are you in pain?: Pain is your body’s way of telling you to slow down, so if you notice any at this stage, stay here instead of progressing further just yet. There’s no rush; it’s a marathon, not a sprint.

IV. Stage 3: Intermediate Challenge – Exploring Bigger Sizes

Medium size
Move to 50–70% of your goal size: You’re not quite there yet, but it’s so close you can almost taste it! If you started out using a 1-inch-wide dildo, for example, and want to eventually be able to handle a 2-inch-wide one, try the intermediate step of a dildo that’s about 1½” or 1¾” wide (or the equivalent width in fingers, if you prefer those).

Try textured toys: Even if you’re limiting yourself to a certain size range for the time being, you can still explore a variety of different textures. Ever felt the bumpy suckers of a tentacle dildo, for instance? Or how about the knotted base of a dog dildo?

Advanced techniques

New positions: Try lying on your side, or getting into a doggie-style position, to see how that changes the sensation. You can get even more creative if your dildo has a suction-cup base – try affixing it to the wall or floor of your shower/bath for hands-free mounting!

Build arousal in longer sessions: The more turned on you are, the easier it’ll be to handle big penetration, so it’s a good idea to get yourself as aroused as possible. Pull out all the stops – your favorite porn clips, erotica stories, and fantasies will be super useful here!

Combine with other stimulation: While penetration can feel great on its own for some people, it’s often even better when combined with penile or clitoral stimulation. Try touching yourself there, or using a vibrator, throughout your size-training sessions for best results.

Safety & feedback
Listen to your body: Don’t force it. If you feel pain or discomfort, slow down, stop, and/or add more lube. Remember, pleasure is the point!

Track your progress: If you want, you can keep a size training diary, in an app or a physical notebook, as a record of how far you’ve come – or how far you’ve cum, as the case may be!

V. Stage 4: Advanced Level – Mastering Large Dildos

Reach your target size
● Use toys at or near your goal size: Congratulations, you’ve finally made it big! How does it feel? Savor your achievement, you wise and accomplished size queen/king/monarch!

Advanced play
Try different designs: Now that you’ve expanded your dildo horizons size-wise, why not explore other types of dildos, too? Try fantasy dildos, tentacle dildos or vibrating dildos if you haven’t already!

Explore new positions or combos: See how creative you can get with the toy(s) you have. The human body is capable of a wide array of sensations; you might as well enjoy them!

Long-term care
Clean and store properly: Always wash your sex toys with soap and water between uses.
Check if size/frequency needs adjusting: If you ever find yourself feeling sore inside, it might be a sign that you’re pushing yourself too far. Try using your dildo less often, using a smaller toy, and/or adding more lube.

See a doctor if needed: It’s generally safe to use penetrative sex toys, as long as you stick to body-safe materials, work your way up to penetration slowly, and use enough lube. But if anything starts to seem amiss down there, check in with your doctor about it.

VI. FAQ
Q1：Will using a large dildo cause permanent looseness?
Nope! Our bodies are miraculously resilient. In fact, the more orgasms you have, the stronger your pelvic floor muscles will get, giving you the ability to squeeze even tighter than before.

Q2：Is bigger always better?
Nope! Different people prefer different things, size-wise, and their preferences may change from day to day or even from moment to moment. Some people enjoy the feeling of fullness, pressure, or stretching that they get from larger penetration, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they can only be satisfied by large penetration, or that they’ll want it every time.

Q3：What if I feel discomfort while upgrading?
Pain or discomfort is a sign that you’re pushing yourself too far, too fast. Go back to smaller penetration if that feels good, add more lube, get more aroused, and give it another go when you’re ready – but always remember: pleasure is the point, and often the journey is just as enjoyable as the destination, if not moreso!

VII. Conclusion
Gradual size-training has many benefits: it’s the safest, comfiest, and most pleasurable way to try large penetration, and helps you build confidence in your ability to handle it. And it’s fun, too!
If your interest has been piqued, check out Wildolo’s selection of large dildos. You’re sure to find something exciting that’ll push you out of your comfort zone!