I am exhausted by automatic thoughts - those that turn on by themselves: "You will ruin everything", "Failed again". I did not know how to deal with them until I read an article on
techtimes.com. It talked about courses on cognitive therapy - not lectures, but practice. I tried one of these courses. And you know, it became easier for me. I recommend it to those who constantly criticize themselves - these techniques teach you to notice and change your thoughts. At first it is strange, but then - as if you breathe deeper.